Girl, Get Your Credit Straight!: A Sister's Guide to Ditching Your Debt, Mending Your Credit, and Building a Strong Financial Future

Chapter One Why We Debt: The Emotional and Cultural Factors at the Root of Your Debt Balance\ \ It doesn’t take a genius to understand that looks can sometimes be deceiving. A case in point is a sharp young sister named Deena. The classy, professional-looking twenty–five–year–old sat confidently in the office chair wearing a Donna Karan suit, Prada shoes, and carrying a $400 Zero Halliburton briefcase. She had just sailed through her first interview at a major Chicago–area bank. Mrs. Clark, the woman who would be her new boss, was clearly impressed with her. She indicated that there was every reason to believe she would soon be scheduling a second interview. For Deena, this news was a welcome relief.\ “I’d done a lot of other jobs, like selling cosmetics and working as a waitress,” Deena recalled, “but becoming a teller and working with money as a stepping–stone to an executive banking career just seems like the perfect fit for me.” And it was coming right on time.\ Years earlier, Deena had been through some rough times. As a nineteen–year–old college student, she became pregnant and gave birth to Tiffany. Although motherhood came as a surprise, she was determined to continue her education and expand her opportunities. Still, it was a struggle to care for herself and her bright–eyed daughter. Deena often found herself overwhelmed with the responsibilities of being a single mom and a part–time student. To make ends meet, she sometimes charged groceries and diapers—not to mention the occasional designer clothes and shoes. When she complained to her parents that her credit–card balance had risen to more than $2,000, her father suggested that she file for bankruptcy, as he had done years earlier.\ “It’s only $2,000,” she told him, feeling silly about going to all that trouble for such a small amount of money. Yet between her father’s confidence in the idea and an incessant TV commercial that advocated bankruptcy and promised “$99 sets you free!,” Deena gave in. Filing for bankruptcy would get everybody off her back and get rid of the debt so she could focus on taking care of her child and continue to pursue her dream of obtaining a college degree.\ Five years later, when she was twenty–four, everything in Deena's life seemed to be coming together. She was engaged to Clifton, a PhD candidate, and they were raising her daughter, Tiffany, as well as a new son, Marcus. But Deena’s debts started to climb again. Her credit–card balance was up to $1,000 and she owed $500 on her cell phone. As a student, Clifton wasn’t bringing in much money. And Deena, with a part–time job of her own, was just helping them get by. Their fights over money got heated, and after another year they decided to split up. Deena was left scrambling again.\ “Clifton always cried broke because of his soaring educational expenses, so only Tiffany’s father provided any kind of steady child support,” Deena recalled. “I ended up having to move back home with my parents. It was cheaper to live there, but I still didn’t have enough money and I was still determined to finish those last few credits for my degree.”\ Then threatening letters started to arrive in the mail and bill collectors began harassing her on the phone. In the midst of this chaos, Deena still spent money trying to keep up appearances, in large part because she was self–conscious about being a never-married mother of two. She continued to dress impeccably as her children donned Baby Phat, Sean Jean, and FUBU. Deena made sure her clothing and her image were a priority. Now, with her second interview at the bank pending, Deena could finally imagine a day—not far in the future—when she could put the struggles behind her.\ A few days later, Deena sat in her car in front of her daughter’s school, enjoying the sunshine and waiting for the final bell to ring. Her cell phone rang instead. It was Mrs. Clark, the woman at the bank who’d interviewed her. Deena broke into a smile.\ “I’m afraid I have a bit of bad news,” Mrs. Clark said. Deena braced herself. “It’s your financial history. We always run a credit report, and there are a few things that, well …I’m afraid we won’t be able to move forward. I hope you understand.”\ Deena thought about her past bankruptcy and the new bills that had just gone into collection. “Of course, I understand,” Deena assured her, trying to sound pleasant, even though she burned with embarrassment and disappointment.\ When she hung up the phone, the typically cool–as–a–cucumber Deena fell apart. Then she looked up and saw her daughter skipping toward the car. Once again, she composed herself and accepted the fact that she was back at square one. “Here I’m supposed to be this role model for my daughter,” she said to herself, “but the reality is, I’m an unemployed mother of two living at home with her parents.” A week later, Deena came across my book Girl, Get Your Money Straight! By doing a little digging, she found my telephone number, called me, and said, “Glinda, I’m ready to clean up my credit. I need help.”\ Committed to Credit\ For better or for worse, we Americans are married to our credit cards. It’s simply the American way to make purchases. We do everything with them, and it doesn’t take unanticipated medical bills or a job loss to entice us to abuse credit. Our list of charges may include picking up that slinky dress for the New Year’s Eve party, getting our teeth cleaned, or paying for a round of drinks during happy hour at our favorite rendezvous spot. Overspending for luxury items, vacations, entertainment, eating out more, and buying unnecessary goods quickly racks up the bill.\ Having credit, the ability to get something now and pay for it later, is a good thing. It makes life so much easier and more convenient. If we had to fork over all the money at once to buy a house or car, we might be living in tents and riding bicycles. If we had to carry around wads of cash to cover regular living expenses like groceries and gas for our cars, we’d all be targets for thieves. What if we flew to another city, checked into a hotel and rented a car, and had to drop several hundred dollars up front? How many of us would have the money to do it? How many of us would feel comfortable traveling with that kind of cash, even if we had it?\ Yes, credit is a wonderful thing, but as with a box of Godiva chocolates, you can overdo it. As a former weekly guest financial expert on a popular call–in radio show in Detroit, I heard from countless people who had run up sky–high bills and then had trouble repaying them. Even the most polished and successful–looking women are often in debt up to the highlighted tips of their hair. And just like Deena, they eventually come to realize that in today’s financial world, your credit is your credibility. People are constantly scrutinizing your credit history, assessing your character, and, at the same time, determining whether they want to deal with you or not.\ So if we know logically that debt is bad, that we shouldn’t spend beyond our means and run up credit–card bills, why on earth do we do it? The answer lies in a complicated web of societal and personal factors that conspire to get us to spend, spend, spend—without a plan for how we will ever pay it back.\ Seduced by Advertising\ Advertising today is savvy and manipulative. Advertisers know how to get you to buy, and even how to get you thinking that debt isn't all that bad. At this writing, the commercials put out by Visa include many hidden messages. Think about what the following voice–over really means: “Enjoy life’s opportunities. Life… it takes risk and joy; life takes spontaneity; it also takes a little help. That’s where we come in, to give you the freedom to experience life the way you want to. So go on, live life, and remember that no matter what it takes, life takes Visa.”\ Sounds great, doesn’t it? But if you think your credit card gives you the freedom to experience life and buy whatever you want, you're right…and wrong. For every purchase we make that we can’t pay, we take away from our future freedom in how we can choose to live.\ But it's not just television advertising that is to blame. Each year, billions of credit-card solicitations go out to people with letters that appear to offer unique personalized opportunities and rewards. They make you feel special—a chosen one—so it’s harder to resist the invitation. Moreover, the government pushes us to spend money because it adds to the economy and protects jobs. Whenever a recession looms or the indicators of the economy point to a slowdown, the government persuades us to renew the economy by spending our hard–earned money. No one will talk about saving or cutting back or even the consequences of excessive spending on an individual level. Why? Because the government is less concerned about individuals than it is about the masses and the power that the masses have as a whole on the economy.\ Nearly two–thirds of the GNP (gross national product), an indicator of the state of the economy, is a result of consumer spending. So if we’re not spending money on goods and services—including goods and services we don’t need to live, like weekly manicures, designer heels, and fancy bottled water—that GNP goes down and you’ll hear the media talking about a weak or slow economy. During the holiday season, the media like to cover how much people are spending in retail stores and how much profit those stores are making as an ultimate end–of–year indicator of just how well America is doing. But, once New Year’s is over and those credit–card bills start arriving, people get the “holiday hangover” and worry about how they will pay for those bills. The second wave of worry comes around April 15, when Mr. Taxman wants to get paid. If you’re due a return, you’re a happy sister. But if you owe money, it can be a very stressful time period. That’s when the Internal Revenue Service endorses credit cards as a “convenient” way to pay your taxes (albeit with a “convenience fee”!). Everywhere we turn, we are encouraged to use credit. And our reliance on it continues to increase at a staggering rate—as we buy everything from lattes and leather purses to vacations and Volvos.\ Societal Changes in How We Treat Money\ If you’re asking yourself, How did this happen to me?, keep in mind that one of the reasons for our debt problems is simple economics: Americans have been experiencing higher costs of living and falling median family incomes. Housing costs, child care, and health insurance have all had double–digit growth while incomes have stagnated or dropped. Even a booming economy can share some of the blame. In fact, the economic boom of the 1990s was driven largely by consumer spending as people tended to spend more on goods and services and save less.\ In addition, the way we treat money has changed in recent decades, and unfortunately, these changes set the consumer up for trouble. One shift that has occurred is in how we as a society actually view money, and the second is in how the lending industry gives money to us, including credit. Combined, these two forces add up to a distorted sense of our own wealth, encouraging the mentality that every purchase we make can eventually be paid for with future income.\ A lot has changed since our grandparents’ and great–grandparents’ generation. Families who experienced the Depression were thrifty savers, but decades later we've become big spenders. Part of the reason baby boomers have had the luxury of spending a lot (and fueling the resulting economic boom) is that they inherited money from their parents and grandparents who had saved and invested so well. But today less and less is getting passed on to future generations as families spend more and save less. No one has a Depression mentality anymore; in fact, we have the opposite. Marketers encourage us to spend both what money we have and what money we don’t have. And the money we don’t have typically comes from credit cards, which are easily abused for the sake of living beyond one’s means and keeping up with the Joneses. And when all those lifestyle purchases add up to a lot of money, it becomes increasingly hard to visualize paying off that debt without winning the lottery or hitting it big in Hollywood.\ Twenty and thirty years ago, credit was rationed based on your ability to pay it back, your reputation, and even your character to some degree. Now it’s seemingly based on your inability to pay it back, because that’s how creditors ultimately make money off you: via high interest rates and late charges. The industry discovered that the most profitable consumers were the least responsible ones, including college students, people who'd declared bankruptcy, housewives with little experience and no education on money management, and those who were consuming beyond their means. That’s when creditors began targeting people who would pay anything—any fee or any interest rate—because they needed more credit.\ Other changes have also factored into society’s debt and credit equation. One is the lack of regulation. Since the early 1970s, usury laws—that is, laws that specify the maximum legal interest rate at which loans can be made—have virtually been eliminated, so credit–card companies can basically charge whatever interest rate they want. Second, technology has made transactions quicker than the blink of an eye. Back when Visa was just getting started in the late 1960s and early 1970s, credit–card processing took a long time. Not anymore it doesn’t. You can buy a high–ticket item in less time than it takes to extract and count the dollars from your wallet.\ Finally, our philosophy toward credit has shifted. It used to be that bankers objected to credit cards out of sheer ethics; they didn’t like extending credit to individuals who they knew couldn’t pay it back. That was considered immoral—like giving consumers the gun with which to shoot themselves. So in some respects bankers also assumed the role of being regulators. Well, we all know that that’s not the case anymore. Now bankers and lenders throw money at us under the guise that it’s practically free…for the time being. They try to distract us from focusing on the payback while we’re in the highly emotional flurry of feeling good about spending and buying. Which is why so many of us are now deep underwater.\ The financial industry doesn’t only prey on those who’ve already messed up their credit or have fallen into debt. It also goes after those on the verge—those who have some home equity, who have been responsible, and who have saved a little. When such people accept high–interest loans and go from living within their means to living beyond them, they can quickly find themselves going from solid middle class down to poverty levels, taking their creditworthiness and sense of well–being with them.\ If this all sounds depressing, it is. But here’s the good news: You can fight back and reclaim good credit no matter how far you might have fallen. The flip side to all this information is that because of how our world now operates, you hold power that many sisters before you did not. Women in general aren’t financially dependent on their husbands anymore. We can make our own money, pay our own bills, and buy our own houses. In fact, in 2005, single women snapped up one of every five homes sold. That's nearly 1.5 million—more than twice as many as single men bought, according to the National Association of Realtors. No matter what the advertisers or credit–card companies would have you believe, you are in charge. I’m going to show you how to change your money mentality and take the power back, one step at a time.

Acknowledgments     ixThe Straight Story     1Digging the Debt Ditch: Life in the Financial HoleWhy We Debt: The Emotional and Cultural Factors at the Root of Your Debt Balance     15Your Credit Report and Score: What They Mean and How They Work     49Climbing Out of the Hole: Practical Tools and Debt-Reducing StrategiesPay Off Debts and Get Your Priorities Straight     97Establish a Spending Plan That Meets Needs and Ditches Debts     143The Secrets to Boosting Your Creditworthiness     179Couples in Credithood     201On Level Ground: Forward-Thinking Strategies to Prevent Debt, Preserve Credit, and Keep Your Spirit in CheckIncrease Your Income: 101 Ideas to Raise Extra Revenue     237Protecting Your New Financial Health and Financing Your Wildest Dreams     287Healing Rituals for the Spirit: Prayer, Affirmation, Meditation, and Visualization     319Index     331