Grief

GRIEF\ \ By Andrew Holleran \ HYPERION\ Copyright © 2006 Andrew Holleran\ All right reserved.\ ISBN: 1-4013-0250-5 \ \ \ Chapter One\ THE HOUSE I lived in that winter in Washington had been a rooming house with fourteen rooms, rented out mostly to addicts, when my landlord bought it in 1974. Friends told him it was a bad idea, but he bought it anyway, and his father came from Alabama to help rebuild the interior from the ground up. As soon as he could, he rented the basement apartment. The bedroom on the top floor he rented from time to time. The rest of the house was his. It was one of those row houses people walk by on fall nights and stop beside to look at the architectural details, the molding, the chandeliers, the bookcases, visible through the tall windows, while straining for glimpses of life within. Often when they did this my landlord was sitting there in the dark in the front room with his dog on his lap, looking down into the street. He would sit there thinking of the nights he used to look at houses like his, enjoying the reversal of roles, till he realized his upstairs tenant was coming up the front steps-when I would see him stand up, gather the dog to his chest, and bolt to his study-the nicest room in the house, with a bay window on the second floor, and a spacious desk, and all his books and papers. \ The weekend I arrived, however, my landlord wasn't home; he was at another house he owned, in the mountains, threehours west of the city, where he had a small shop that sold a mix of antiques, theatrical props, and novelties. It was the holiday honoring Martin Luther King Jr. The airports were so empty it felt like I was passing through Limbo-from one life to the next. In fact I was leaving behind a life: the non-life, rather, that people who take care of someone face after the invalid dies; in this case, after a long period of helplessness spent mostly in a nursing home-a place that my mother had always asked me to keep her out of, no matter what happened; till what happened made it necessary. The idea of moving to a city seemed like a good idea, so when an old friend asked me if I'd teach a course-someone was going on sabbatical-I accepted.\ But sitting in the airport on a Saturday I had only felt lost. Like someone cleaning a room who opens a drawer and finds something he did not want to find, I realized I had chosen to travel on the one day when I felt worst; since Saturday was the day when I had for the past twelve years driven to the nursing home to remove my mother for the weekend-a day of such happiness for both of us (eliminating the nursing home), that the only thing that spoiled it was the gauntlet of people who were being left behind when I wheeled her chair down the hallway, a prisoner being freed while the others watched. Or perhaps, I thought now, that was an element of the pleasure; so confused was I still about what all that had meant. What was clear was that I'd become used to going there on Saturdays; something I was not doing among the strangers sitting around me in the vacant sunny lounge of the airport in Atlanta-that womb, that amniotic fluid, in which the traveler floats, detached from all his elements of identity. To get to Heaven, the joke goes, you change planes in Atlanta. The day my mother had fallen I'd flown north as if going to the afterlife, traveling toward what I thought was her death as in a dream, too much in shock to even feel anything but strange; the silence of the cabin, the clouds outside, the quiet passengers, all ignorant of my awful news. Now, after her death, years later, I was flying north again with the same bizarre feeling. You never know, I thought, watching the other passengers settle into the plastic chairs around me, who is flying on a bereavement discount. There's no way to tell-though most of the families I could see, peering over the newspaper I was reading at their exchanges, seemed to still have one another.\ I was the solitary traveler this time; on a day whose future identity had been my own selfish worry when my mother died: What would I do with each Saturday? How would I get up that morning knowing there was no need to get in the car to drive into the nursing home to take her out? It was only now that the dimensions of the routine we had established were becoming clear. "It's the families who keep the patient alive," a nurse had said to me one day in the nursing home. "They're the ones who won't let go." Nurses are the supreme realists, I thought as I sat in the vacant anonymity of an airport on a weekend when very few people seemed to be traveling. It's in airports that we feel most lost; in airports that we grieve. So when I got to Washington I went outside to get the Metro with a feeling that I was breathing for the first time in hours.\ The weather the day I showed up was neither warm nor cold. The keys had been mailed a week earlier; a note welcoming me was on the table in the entrance hall-and for the next two days I had the place to myself.\ Not only the house, but the neighborhood itself, was empty. Happy to be starting over, however, I began to walk. Years earlier a friend who'd lived in Washington had said when asked why he'd left: "I refused to go to one more dinner party where people talked about their town houses as if they were children." But I could see, only hours after arriving there that January afternoon, on my first exploration of the neighborhood, how this could happen. Everywhere I looked I saw row houses. Unlike those in Manhattan, they exhibited a great variation in design. There was something Germanic about them: little castles. Turrets and towers marked the corners in every direction, conical roofs of black slate, with dormer windows that looked like half-opened eyes gazing out between the chimneys and balconies. Though smaller than Manhattan brownstones, and composed of different colored stone, they presented the onlooker with the same reassuring sense of comfort and solidity, as if you were walking through a novel by William Dean Howells or Henry James.\ This feeling only deepened that first afternoon when I unlocked the door at the top of the stairs and found myself looking through a window into the study of the house next door, a nook filled with bookcases, African violets, and an elderly couple on a small sofa engaged in what looked like a perpetual conversation. On the landing outside were a few clay pots still holding the remains of summer-dried stalks of basil and rosemary. The iron gate I had to unlatch, before opening the old wooden door, implied there was crime about, but once I opened it, and the inner door in the entrance hall, I felt quite safe-plunged into the silvery, aqueous gloom of the house itself: a gray light provided by two glass doors in the back, which gave onto a wooden deck whose stairs led down to a narrow brick-walled garden lined with tall fir trees. The firs made the garden look Nordic. The décor inside the house was strictly American, however-banquettes, spot lighting, and gray walls-the furniture eclectic: a fine chair upholstered in striped gold and silver, next to a plastic table with a lava lamp, a big rococo mirror that leaned against one wall, and, against the wall opposite, one of those dead-white sculptures nineteenth-century America considered masterpieces but this century regards as kitsch-in this case, according to the thick letters raised on its pediment, Boy with a Thorn.\ The youth removing a thorn from his foot was illumined by a spotlight in the ceiling I tried to turn off by flicking the switches on a panel beside it; but touching the switches only turned every light on in various sections of the ground floor, which made me think: Lighting is what the seventies were all about. It was all like a house someone had designed in 1978-a more hedonistic era poured into the walls of this deep, narrow, sober old building, where, that first evening, I found myself sitting in the dark looking down into the twilight where two men in jeans and plaid shirts were washing a car. I could not decide if the fact that I was able to wander at will that first weekend was welcoming or cold; especially when, while looking for clues to my landlord's life, I found none. Go ahead, look, the house seemed to say-you won't find a thing about me here.\ But this seemed appropriate. As I walked through the house I felt like a ghost myself, or like someone turning the pages in a back issue of Architectural Digest-to which, despite its do-it-yourself homeliness, the house seemed to aspire. In the dining room hung a large painting that looked as if someone had copied Caravaggio, not very well; this knockoff was not much more effective than the handle of the washer and dryer in the alcove off the kitchen that came off in my hand. There were drawers that didn't open, lights that didn't work. In the cabinet above the stove were only a rusted can of paprika and one small jar of peanut butter. It was as if no one had ever eaten there. The house was a sort of tomb that first weekend. The more I looked the emptier it seemed, and when I caught my reflection accidentally in the enormous mirror leaning against the wall of the living room it brought me to a halt-the pale silvery figure staring back at me looked so tentative and sad.\ When I finally climbed the stairs to my bedroom on the third floor, I lay down on the big low bed and stared at the single strand of ivy that had climbed to the top of a brick wall behind the house, and, beyond it, more rooftops and a building under construction. I was glad to be alone and at the same time apprehensive. When I turned on the lamp beside the bed the room looked like a hotel room in a strange city.\ On the table by the bed were three books standing upright between two glass clowns that served as bookends-a murder mystery by Ruth Rendell, a book about Elizabeth Nietzsche's Aryan colony in Paraguay, and Mary Todd Lincoln: Her Life and Letters, by Justin and Linda Levitt Turner.\ I opened the middle book and looked at the pictures of Nietzsche's sister, and the handsome men with big moustaches who had followed her to Paraguay, standing next to a cart on a dirt road in the jungle. Then rain started pattering on the skylight above the landing and I fell asleep.\ WHEN I AWOKE I picked up the letters of Mary Todd Lincoln-which proved to be so engrossing that as I lay there reading that first night in Washington it took me a few seconds to make sure I'd heard the doorbell before going down to investigate.\ When I got to the front door a slender black man in a soiled windbreaker was tapping on the front window as he leaned sideways from the landing. I opened the doors and said hello. He said he knew my landlord, lived a few doors down the street, had just been in an accident in Dupont Circle, his wife was in George Washington University Hospital, and he needed ninety dollars to get his car, which had been towed away. I decided it would be racist to doubt his word-so I gave him what money I had and closed the door. Moments later the doorbell rang again. This time it was a white man who introduced himself as the downstairs tenant and asked if the man who had just come to the door had asked for money because he'd been in a car accident.\ "Yes," I said, "he said he's a neighbor and knows our landlord."\ The man emitted a short laugh.\ "He lives on a bench in Dupont Circle and there was no car accident. How much did you give him?"\ "Twenty bucks," I said.\ "Well, you didn't know," he said, turning to walk down the stairs. "And it is Martin Luther King's birthday. I guess you could call it-reparations!" Then he laughed, and disappeared beneath the stairs to his apartment.\ Outside another stranger-a weathered, handsome man in blue jeans and a plaid coat-was bent over at the waist, picking leaves off the sidewalk in the lamplight one by one and putting them in his pocket. When I put on my coat and went out, he neither spoke nor looked at me. After living alone in a small town I had lost the knowledge of how to pass people on the street: whether to look at them-and for how long-whether or not to nod or say hello.\ One of the odd aspects of caring for someone for a long time is that you grow accustomed to a certain intimacy-but as I walked down the dark, tree-lined block, past house after house just like my landlord's, with lamps burning within, and pots of dead flowers on the stoops, I realized I belonged to no one now, and no one belonged to me. I was like a crab that has shed one shell but not found another; and when I returned from the grocery store, I did what a crustacean must do when it finds a new carapace to occupy: resume its old habits-unpacked the groceries, searched for the classical radio station, and sat down to read the newspaper while they played an oboe concerto by Mozart. Outside the front door lay not the small town in which I'd been living but a city with bars, restaurants, and concert halls, but they made no difference; I had merely changed the room in which I sat and the newspaper I was reading.\ I was reading a story on the front page about the recent brouhaha in the municipal government in which the new African-American mayor had fired a white man who had used the word "niggardly" during a budget meeting. A black aide had stormed out of the meeting claiming he had been insulted. The homosexual community was calling on the mayor to rehire the white aide, who was gay, because the word "niggardly" was an old English term that had nothing to do with race. One columnist was arguing that a white person should have known that whatever its meaning this word could give offense. A letter to the editor argued that white people should not have to bow to the lexical deficiencies of blacks. A second article claimed the black aide's outrage was bogus and had been staged by a cabal of civil servants who felt threatened by the new regime; a permanent bureaucracy that was against all reform because it felt any change would simply allow whites to take over the city.\ I was reading still another installment in this ongoing story at the dining room table on Monday when my landlord came through the door. "Hi!" he said, as he put down his duffel bag, and a small brown and white dog walked toward me, its toenails clicking on the floor. "Biscuit! Come here!" he called. The dog stopped in its tracks, looking at me with bright eyes. Then he said: "Welcome to Washington! Nice to see you!"\ I stood up, shook his hand, and apologized for having been so absorbed in the story in the Post about the mayor that I'd not heard him come in. He returned to a table on which I'd put the mail. "Oh, please," he said, picking up the envelopes. "I don't know if you've been out and around yet, but if you have, you may have noticed a lot of subtle, and not so subtle, racial hostility in this town. People like me, the ones who marched in all the civil rights marches in the sixties, have become very discouraged. Very discouraged," he said, as he began opening the envelopes. "Most of us who were behind civil rights from the beginning have just about given up on the whole thing. I won't even try to sit down next to a black person on the Metro because I know if I do that person will not move an inch to make space for me-not even half an inch! You'll see. There's a subtext to life in this city, an unspoken comment that accompanies almost every exchange, which is: 'You stupid white man.' But here I am on my soapbox already-and all I wanted to say was welcome to Washington! Come here, Biscuit!" he said to the little dog sniffing at my ankles.\ I was looking at a man my age in green corduroy pants, a blue buttoned-down shirt, and a navy blue parka. He had thick salt and pepper hair cut short, and-curious anachronism-a neat moustache. His eyes were small and deep set. Two creases formed parentheses around a thin mouth. It was the sort of face that had been used in the seventies to advertise cigarettes. He was probably better-looking now than he had been in his youth, though the expression on his face implied that his looks had not brought him peace of mind-there was a certain discontent, an unease, visible in the way he moved two fingers back and forth nervously across his neat moustache while reading the envelope in his left hand. He looked a little like John Brown, the Abolitionist, it occurred to me. Then he glanced up. "Is your room all right?" he said.\ "Very nice," I said.\ (Continues...)\ \ \ \ \ Excerpted from GRIEF by Andrew Holleran Copyright © 2006 by Andrew Holleran. Excerpted by permission.\ All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.\ Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site. \ \

\ Elizabeth HandGrief, his haunting and unexpectedly exhilarating new novel, takes his longtime themes -- loss, desire, the deep joy and solace humans derive from their homes and surroundings -- and distills them into a heady, bittersweet aperitif. And like the best aperitifs, this slender novel whets one's appetite for an entire meal of the author's other work.\ — The Washington Post\ \ \ \ \ USA Today"Andrew Holleran's novel Grief could be to fiction what Joan Didion's best-selling 2005 memoir, The Year of Magical Thinking, was to non-fiction: A hit about how we consciously and unconsciously cope with the death and absence of someone we love . . . Grief, like Magical Thinking, is tempting to read in one sitting. Instead, it should be savored, because its emotional theme and elegiac tone are mesmerizing."\ \ \ Caryn JamesHolleran’s earlier novels can seem so determined to speak for their disenfranchised gay characters that the works become inaccessible to anyone else, like looking through a window at someone else’s world. Taken on its own, Grief is more generous in its reach. The narrator speaks for everyone when he says, “That’s where the dead exist — in our hearts.” Through this self-absorbed hero, Holleran has gained a perspective more expansive than ever before.\ — The New York Times\ \ \ \ \ Salon"Grief is a short novel, but like a single note struck on a perfect silver bell, it carries far."\ \ \ \ \ Washington Post Book World"This slender volume conjures up a rich and deeply seductive, satisfying world, one that welcomes readers gay, straight, single, coupled or otherwise. . . . Holleran's moving novel is mostly about human resilience and hope; our enduring need to love, despite our losses. The beautiful life is brief: all the more reason to embrace it."\ \ \ \ \ Entertainment Weekly"In a novella that's not just post-AIDS but virtually post-sex, Holleran exquisitely captures the many nuances of loss. A-"\ \ \ \ \ Publishers WeeklyAn understated, eloquent novel by Holleran (Dancer from the Dance) captures the pain of a generation of gay men who have survived the AIDS epidemic and reached middle age yearning for fidelity, tenderness and intimacy. The unnamed, silver-haired narrator has just relocated from Florida, where he cared for his recently deceased mother for the last 12 years, to Washington, D.C., to "start life over" and teach a college seminar on literature and AIDS. He rents a room in a townhouse near Dupont Circle, his solitude deepened by his awareness that he and his gay, celibate landlord, a "homosexual emeritus," form only a semblance of a household. The narrator spends his days exploring the streets of the capital and his nights engrossed in the letters of Mary Todd Lincoln, who held onto her grief and guilt at her husband's death much like the narrator hordes his guilt for never having come out of the closet to his mother-and for having survived the 1980s and '90s. Holleran makes his coiled reticence speak volumes on attachment, aging, sex and love in small scenes as compelling as they are heartbreaking. Visiting with his friend Frank, whose willful pragmatism throws the narrator's mourning in sharp relief, prove especially revealing. Frank manages to have a steady boyfriend, while for the narrator, his landlord and most of their friends, love and partnership seem impossibly intimate. Until its terse, piercing conclusion, Holleran's elegiac narrative possesses its power in the unsaid. (June) Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.\ \ \ \ \ Library JournalSince the 1978 publication of The Dancer and the Dance, Holleran has been recognized as one of the most prominent voices in gay literature. In his latest novel, he addresses grief, both personal and historical. For years, the unnamed narrator has been caring for his mother, visiting her regularly after her confinement to a nursing home. Now she has died and seems to have taken with her his reason for living. A friend arranges a guest professorship and a room in a Washington, DC, townhouse, and the narrator tries on this new life for a few months. In his rented bedroom, he finds a copy of Mary Todd Lincoln's letters, and her grief becomes entangled with his grief and the grief of all gay men of a similar age who have seen so many friends stolen from life by AIDS. In addition, he starts identifying with his landlord's dog, shut away in the study while his master is at work. Though slim, this rewarding volume is densely packed with feeling for those who have been lost, have held themselves back and not become what they might have been, or have been so afraid to love that now they find themselves alone. Highly recommended for gay studies collections in academic libraries and for larger public libraries as well.-Debbie Bogenschutz, Cincinnati State Technical & Community Coll. Lib. Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.\ \ \ \ \ Kirkus ReviewsA haunting, exquisite novel about the nature of loss, grief and the illusion of intimacy. The unnamed protagonist, having taken care of his failing mother for some 12 years, is devastated by her death. When a friend offers a one-semester teaching gig in Washington, D.C., and a lead on a room rental, the professor jumps at the deal. So begins Holleran's spare story: "The house that I lived in that winter in Washington had been a rooming house with fourteen rooms, rented out mostly to addicts, when my landlord bought it in 1974." On the nightstand is a collection of Mary Todd Lincoln's letters; the widow's words become a reference for everything the professor notices as he wanders the nation's capital. Here is her dress in the Smithsonian Institution; here is where her husband was assassinated; here the atmosphere is similar to one of the First Lady's soirees. The author slowly discloses his characters' makeup: The professor holds on to his anguish as a form of tribute ("Grief is what you have after someone you love dies. It's the only thing left of that person"). His landlord-reserved, formal and middle-aged-has seen hundreds of his friends die in the AIDS epidemic; in the face of such sorrow the landlord simply retreats. ("My landlord was, so far as I could tell, like many gay men of a certain age, celibate-because of AIDS, or an inability to attract the partners they wanted, or simply diminishing interest.") Even Biscuit, the landlord's dog, plays a subtle role in Holleran's narrative: The professor is relieved to be able to feel sorry for something worse off than himself. Holleran's slender novel is a work of art defying easy synopsis; the author's skill resides-as does much of theplot-in the small details. A quiet story well told.\ \