It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend: Helping the Child with Learning Disabilities Find Social Success
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As any parent, teacher, coach, or caregiver of a learning disabled child knows, every learning disability has a social component. The ADD child constantly interrupts conversations and doesn't follow directions. The child with visual-spatial issues loses his belongings and causes his siblings to be late to school. The child with paralinguistic difficulties appears stiff and wooden because she fails to gesture when she talks. These children are socially out of step with their classmates and peers, and often they are ridiculed or ostracized for their differences. A successful social life is immeasurably important to a child's happiness, health, and development, but until now, no book has provided practical, expert advice on helping learning disabled children achieve social success.For more than thirty years, Richard Lavoie has lived with and taught learning disabled children. His bestselling PBS videos, including How Difficult Can This Be?: The F.A.T. City Workshop, and his sellout lectures and workshops have made him one of the most popular and respected experts in the field. At last, Rick's pioneering techniques for helping children achieve a happy and successful social life are available in book form.It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend offers practical strategies to help learning disabled children ages six through seventeen navigate the treacherous social waters of their school, home, and community. Rick examines the special social issues surrounding a wide variety of learning disabilities, including ADD and other attentional disorders, anxiety, paralinguistics, visual-spatial disorders, and executive functioning. Then he provides proven methods andstep-by-step instructions for helping the learning disabled child through almost any social situation, including choosing a friend, going on a playdate, conducting a conversation, reading body language, overcoming shyness and low self-esteem, keeping track of belongings, living with siblings, and adjusting to new settings and situations. Perhaps the most important component of this book is the author's compassion. It comes through on every page that Rick feels the intensity with which children long for friends and acceptance, the exasperation they can cause in others, and the joy they feel in social connection. It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend answers the most intense yet, until now, silent need of the parents, teachers, and caregivers of learning disabled children -- or anyone who is associated with a child who needs a friend.
ContentsGetting in Good Dr. Mel LevinePreface Rob and Michele ReinerIntroduction: "The Other Sixteen Hours" Part One Why Do They Do the Things They Do?: The Impact of Learning Disorders on the Development of Social SkillsOne Children with Learning Disorders Are Wired Differently: It's All in Their HeadsTwo Anxiety: A Cause and Consequence of Social IsolationThree Language Difficulties: Getting and Giving the MessageFour Paralinguistics: Words Carry the Message, Body Language Carries the EmotionFive Attention Deficit Disorder: The Social Lives of the Unhappy WanderersPart Two Social Skills on the Homefront: Dealing with Parents, Siblings, and Other StrangersSix Enhancing Organizational Skills: Bringing Order and Structure to the Disorganized ChildSeven Siblings and Other Strangers Eight Playdates: The Social Coin of the Realm Part Three Social Skills at School: Reading, 'Riting, 'Rithmetic, and RelationshipsNine Bullies, Victims, and Spectators: Strategies to Prevent Teasing, Intimidation, and Harassment in SchoolTen Mastering the Hidden Curriculum of School: The Unwritten, Unspoken RulesEleven Teacher-Pleasing Behaviors: Polishing the ApplePart Four Social Skills in the Community: No Kid Is an IslandTwelve Appropriate Social Skills in Public Places Thirteen Meeting, Making, and Keeping FriendsConclusion Appendix Index
