Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships
"We have earned a certain place in each other’s lives, and in the best of times we can rest on what we have made together."\ Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal...
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This volume contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses considering how a lesbian's ex-lovers affect her subsequent romances and lifestyle. Contributions include (for example) a novelist's description of the tensions that can develop when ex-lovers choose to remain friends; a psychotherapist's explanation of the role transition from lover to ex-lover; and a humorous comic strip by Alison Bechdel. The volume has been simultaneously published as Journal of Lesbian Studies, vol. 8, nos. 3/4, 2004. Annotation ©2004 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR
Lesbian ex-lover relationships : under-estimated, under-theorized and under-valued?1To all the girls I left before11Tenth anniversary13Coming out of my closet21In my dream : my ex-lovers' unconventional convention25These most difficult tasks31Passion33Still the one37Loading up the U-Haul : traveling the spaces between friends and lovers45Daring to take the risk57Family affairs73Highly favored ex75For Emily, many years too late/years later, in another city, I still think of her79Truth, dreams and the li(v)es between85Temporary temptation87Lost love89Neurotic love letters93Goodbye note to my lover97Leaving Liza99Lesbian ex-lovers by the numbers : a reflective but not contemplative love poem of sorts111I'm not Lisa117The house on Transcript Avenue129The politics of potlucks135Family doggerel141The visit145Irritating and constricting/elating and elastic - being "ex" as a lesbian149Consummated friends and ex-wives : two types of lesbian ex-lovers159When three's a crowd : ex-lovers and lesbian families in 2 girls in love165Making the transition : understanding the longevity of lesbian relationships177Lesbian FLEX-ibility : friend and/or family connections among lesbian ex-lovers193The migration of the mythic lesbian241
