How does a boy learn to be a man?\ A man learns masculinity primarily from his father. But generations of boys who grow up without caring fathers or male mentors to emulate are left to guess what "men" are really like. They rely on cultural icons—larger-than-life images—as models of masculinity. As a result, they grow up mirroring overblown myths of manhood. Obsessed with being "man enough," they become philanderers, controllers, and competitors—constantly overcompensating for their loss of a...
Introduction\ I. The Obsession of Masculinity\ One: Masculinity: The Secret Passion of Men Two: Philanderers Three: Contenders Four: Controllers\ II. Becoming a Man\ Five: Growing Up Male Six: Father Hunger Seven: Mother Love Eight: The Brotherhood of Boys Nine: Myths of Heroes\ III. Being a Man\ Ten: A Man Among Men Eleven: Mating with a Woman Twelve: Life as Father