Power of Apology: A Healing Strategy to Transform All Your Relationships
Discover the healing power of apology and put its magic to work in your life\ "Beverly Engel has eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. This book is a wise contribution to the ever-growing literature on forgiveness and reconciliation. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation."Rabbi Charles A. Klein, Author, How to Forgive When You Can’t Forget: Healing Our Personal Relationships\ "Readers...
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"Fresh and useful . . . excellent practical advice . . . thorough and lucid . . . will be welcomed by many who have struggled to ask forgiveness and to forgive." -Publishers Weekly A finalist in the Books for a Better Life Awards competition! Discover the healing power of apology and put its magic to work in your life Do you have a difficult time apologizing or are you involved with someone who does? Do you tend to overapologize and appear weak in others' eyes? Do you want to reconcile with someone but feel they owe you an apology first? Do you need to apologize or make amends to someone but don't know how to go about it? In this inspiring book from internationally acclaimed therapist and self-improvement author Beverly Engel, you will learn why some people have difficulty apologizing while others tend to overapologize. You'll learn how to give a meaningful apology, how to ask for one, and how to receive one. From making amends with those you have hurt to dealing with someone who refuses to apologize to teaching children responsibility and empathy, this life-changing book shows you how to bring a healing new element of renewal into every relationship in your life. "Beverly Engel has eloquently explained the power of apology in a remarkably insightful and perceptive manner. No one has been better able to explain what an apology means and its role in reconciliation." -Rabbi Charles A. Klein, author of How to Forgive When You Can't Forget: Healing Our Personal Relationships "Readers of this wise and lucid guide to the neglected art of authentic apology will acquire a powerful tool to help repairrelationships with others and with themselves." -Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., author of Forgiving and Not Forgiving: A New Approach to Resolving Intimate Betrayal "An engaging and in-depth book on a subject that has rarely been addressed so intelligently and thoroughly. Ms. Engel offers the reader specific suggestions that can help you improve all your relationships." -Steven Farmer, M.F.T., author of Adult Children of Abusive Parents
\ CHAPTER 1\ Apology Is for Everyone
AcknowledgmentsIntroduction1Pt. 1The Power of Apology9Ch. 1Apology Is for Everyone11Ch. 2Why Learning to Give, Receive, and Ask for Apologies Is So Important22Ch. 3Why Apologizing Is Difficult for Some and Too Easy for Others37Pt. 2Learn How to Give a Meaningful Apology53Ch. 4The Right and Wrong Way to Apologize55Pt. 3Learn How to Receive and Accept Apologies77Ch. 5Opening the Door with Empathy79Ch. 6Overcoming the Seven Obstacles to Forgiveness87Ch. 7There Is a Time to Forgive - and a Time to Forget About Forgiving109Pt. 4Learn How to Ask for an Apology119Ch. 8Silence Isn't Always Golden121Pt. 5Transform All Your Relationships Through Apology129Ch. 9Healing Your Relationship with Yourself131Ch. 10Healing Your Past, Step 1: Make Your Apology List141Ch. 11Healing Your Past, Step 2: Make Amends152Ch. 12Healing Your Family When There Has Been an Estrangement165Ch. 13Healing Your Marriage or Romantic Relationship180Ch. 14Teach Your Children Well203Ch. 15Healing Your Business Relationships Through Respect and Compassion219Ch. 16Conclusion: The Apology Movement230AppTwo Ideas to Consider: Apology Circles and Restorative Justice237References241Recommended Reading243Index
\ From Barnes & NobleThe Barnes & Noble Review\ What good is it to say you’re sorry when the damage is already done? According to Beverly Engel, it’s essential: “Apology, or the lack thereof, affects literally every single person on a daily basis,” she claims. “[An apology] has the potential to transform the world.” If that seems strong to you, read Engel’s unusual, passionate meditation on the power of apologies. In it, she maintains that apologies -- far from being an afterthought -- can heal every relationship at a core level; for her, forgiveness cures our lives. \ To find the true power of apologies, however, we need to dispense with the meaningless shrugs that often pass for repentance. For many of us, Engel notes, apologies are mere protocol: We apologize when we cut in line, when we burp, or when we just want an enraged co-worker to get lost. But in this book, Engel shows us how we can apologize in a more potent way. “Unless you are ready and willing to accept complete responsibility and to admit you were wrong, you will not receive the benefits of your apology,” Engel cautions. Here, Engel leads us through steady exercises that help us to articulate, thoughtfully and nonthreateningly, what we really feel. Next, she shows us how to receive an apology properly and how to work toward forgiveness. Finally, she directs us to address those situations in which we feel we need an apology, so that we can ask for it honestly and directly. Engel’s clear treatment of apologies and their aftermath brings together all of the issues that most nearly affect our relationships; it’s a startlingly clear approach to emotional growth. (Jesse Gale)\ \ \
