The Mommy Myth: The Idealization of Motherhood and How It Has Undermined Women
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Taking readers on a provocative tour through thirty years of media images about mothers — the superficial achievements of celebrity moms, the sensational coverage of dangerous day care, the media-manufactured "mommy wars" between working mothers and stay-at-home moms, and more — The Mommy Myth contends that this "new momism" has been shaped by out-of-date mores, and that no matter how hard they try, women will never achieve it. In this must-read for every woman, Susan J. Douglas and Meredith W. Michaels shatter the myth of the perfect mom and all but shout, "We're not gonna take it anymore!" Publishers Weekly In the idealized myth, mothers and babies spend their days discovering the wonders of life, reading, playing and laughing. Mom wears her baby in a sling, never raises her voice and of course has unlimited time and patience. Baby grows up safe, happy and respectful. In real life, however, it's a different story. Douglas (Where the Girls Are) and Smith College philosophy professor Michaels, "mothers with an attitude problem," blow the lid off "new momism," "a set of ideals... that seem on the surface to celebrate motherhood, but which in reality promulgate standards of perfection that are beyond [a mother's] reach." The authors examine the past 30 years of television, radio, movies, magazines and advertising to show that the bar has been increasingly raised for "the standards of good motherhood while singling out and condemning those we were supposed to see as dreadful mothers" (notably harried working mothers). Using ample humor (e.g., buy the wrong toys and your child will "end up a semiliterate counter girl in Dunkin' Donuts for life"), abundant examples and an approachable style, Douglas and Michaels incriminate not just Republican administrations and Dr. Laura, but also celebrity mothers, Drs. Spock and the evening news. While the authors are occasionally repetitive and sometimes condescend to moms who stay at home, their thought-provoking, accessible foray critiquing new momism will be of interest to liberal mothers-and possibly fathers-helping them to judge the media's images of motherhood with a more critical eye. (Feb. 9) Forecast: Douglas and Michaels's book will undoubtedly be reviewed in various media, and a 10-city author tour will create further interest-and debate. Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
Introduction: The New Momism11Revolt Against the MRS282Mouthing Off to Dr. Spock553Threats from Without: Satanism, Abduction, and Other Media Panics854Attack of the Celebrity Moms1105Threats from Within: Maternal Delinquents1406The War Against Welfare Mothers1737The "Mommy Wars"2038Dumb Men, Stupid Choices - or Why We Have No Childcare2369Moms "R" Us26810Dr. Laura's Neighborhood: Baby Wearing, Nanny Cams, and the Triumph of the New Momism298Epilogue: Exorcising the New Momism331Notes337Acknowledgments363Index367
