There Goes the Bride: Making Up Your Mind, Calling It Off and Moving On
There Goes the Bride is your personal guide to calling off a wedding— maybe your own! It walks the reader through the reasons, logistics, and emotions associated with breaking an engagement and provides down-to-earth advice, support, and encouragement from women who have been there. Rachel Safier— the widely recognized expert on the topics of cold feet and broken engagements— addresses all your concerns, including figuring out if it's more than just cold feet, dealing with friends and family...
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Safier, a writer for television and magazines who broke her engagement two weeks before her wedding, walks through the reasons, emotions, and logistics of breaking an engagement and calling off a wedding. Stories from 62 women offer comfort, inspiration, and practical advice, and appendices list organizations for support. Co-author Wendy Roberts is a licensed clinical social worker. There is no subject index. Annotation ©2003 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR Lori Leibovich It's about time someone tackled this often-secret subject. 'There Goes the Bride' is long overdue. (Editor and Founder, Indiebride.com)
PrefaceixAcknowledgmentsxiiiMeet the Almost BridesxvPart 1Making Up Your MindChapter 1Is This Just Cold Feet?3Chapter 2Premarital Resources25Part 2Calling It OffChapter 3How We Called It Off41Chapter 4Saying It Out Loud60Chapter 5Getting Your Money Back (and Dealing with the Ring)71Chapter 6Why Marry in the First Place?97Part 3Moving OnChapter 7Finding Comfort, Finding Strength127Chapter 8Is It Grief When I Wish He Were Dead? Understanding Grief, Anger, and All the Other Emotions164Chapter 9Getting More Help: When to See Your Doctor or a Therapist176Chapter 10New Beginnings191Epilogue211ResourcesPremarital Counseling215Find Help Fast219Breakup Movies223Songs to Sing at the Top of Your Lungs225Sayings to Get You Through the Day227The Almost Brides231The Almost Brides' Survey235Notes243The Authors251
\ From Barnes & NobleThe Barnes & Noble Review\ Rachel Safier has written a unique self-help tome that is a combination diary and workbook to help brides with cold feet identify, sort through, and deal with their feelings. \ You're engaged, and it's supposed to be "the happiest time of your life," but it's falling short of expectations. Worse yet, you're feeling a combination of dread, anxiety, and the sensation that you're on an emotional roller coaster that's headed down, down, down. Is something wrong with you? No! says Safier, who's been there and has lived to tell the tale. She's also enlisted 62 other prospective brides who bucked the altar to talk about their feelings and experiences. Safier addresses practical as well as emotional issues, as in how to recoup some, if not all, of the money you've paid out to vendors for the big day. Even if you think you only have the pre-wedding jitters, read this book, do some serious reflection, and then make one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. Vivian Kelly\ \ \ \ \ \ Carley RoneyTying the knot is great—when it's right. For to-be-weds everywhere who may not be sure their One is THE One or for those on the receiving end of a broken engagement, the personal stories in this book are a balm for understanding how and why these things happen and for coping with the aftermath and moving on. (Editor-in-Chief and Co-Founder, TheKnot.com)\ \ \ Lori LeibovichIt's about time someone tackled this often-secret subject. 'There Goes the Bride' is long overdue. (Editor and Founder, Indiebride.com)\ \ \ \ \ From The Critics"Amid all the happy talk about encouraging marriage, we need to remember that what we really want is better, more stable, grown-up marriages, and that people need to think critically about whether they are right for each other, and indeed whether they are ready for marriage to anybody."- John Crouch, Executive Director, Americans for Divorce Reform\ \
