Together Forever: The Smart Gay Man's Guide to Lifelong Love
A loving, lasting, committed relationship\ One of the greatest challenges that gay men face today is deciding to be in a long-term committed relationship and then learning how to make it work. Dr. Kantor busts the myths that exist in the gay community about relationships and gives gay men a model for healthy, happy marriages (legal or not).\ Learn:\ -Why the fate of your relationship is more important than the health and well-being of your sofa\ -Why you should choose commitment and work to...
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Essential tools for a lasting relationship. Library Journal Psychiatrist Kantor (Understanding Paranoia) believes that a committed gay marriage is infinitely more satisfying than the jungle of the gay single scene, and he lays out a framework for building a fulfilling long-term relationship. He begins by blasting some of the myths surrounding gay men and touches on marital danger zones of particular concern to gay couples (e.g., self-absorption, paranoia, excessive dependency, and competitiveness). Psychological reasons for these and other problems are explained, examples from real-life couples are cited, and tools for working through the issues are provided. Kantor speaks from personal experience (he is gay and in a long-term relationship) and years of counseling gay couples; his words ring true and offer hope and help. Recommended for all libraries. Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
Introduction..............................................................................................................................1Chapter 1: The Old Gay Scene or the New Gay Domesticity?..............................7Chapter 2: Myths and Facts ...........................................................................................21Chapter 3: Sailing the Seven "C's".................................................................................45Chapter 4: Coddling: Positivity and Affirmation.............................................................59Chaper 5: Danger Zone 1: Overcoming Boredom and Restlessness...................91Chapter 6: Danger Zone 2: Curing Sexual Problems--Sexual Inhibition, Sexual Addiction, and Cheating; and Dealing with Polygamy..........................101Chapter 7: Danger Zone 3: Dealing with Anger.........................................................123Chapter 8: Danger Zone 4: Overcoming Fear of Closeness and Committment..................................................................................................................153CHapter 9: Danger Zone 5: Getting Past Self-Absorption......................................167Chapter 10: Danger Zone 6: How Not to be Uptight................................................181Chapter 11: Danger Zone 7: Dealing with Paranoia................................................195Chapter 12: Danger Zone 8: Overcoming Excessive Dependency......................213Chapter 13:Danger Zone 9: Overcoming Excessive Competitiveness...............221Chapter 14: Third Parties from Hell..................................................................................227Chapter 15: Handling Breakups......................................................................................237Chapter 16: A Difficult Relationship Rescued..............................................................245Chapter 17: Models of a Great Relationship...............................................................255About the Author..................................................................................................................263
\ Library JournalPsychiatrist Kantor (Understanding Paranoia) believes that a committed gay marriage is infinitely more satisfying than the jungle of the gay single scene, and he lays out a framework for building a fulfilling long-term relationship. He begins by blasting some of the myths surrounding gay men and touches on marital danger zones of particular concern to gay couples (e.g., self-absorption, paranoia, excessive dependency, and competitiveness). Psychological reasons for these and other problems are explained, examples from real-life couples are cited, and tools for working through the issues are provided. Kantor speaks from personal experience (he is gay and in a long-term relationship) and years of counseling gay couples; his words ring true and offer hope and help. Recommended for all libraries. Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.\ \
