Ugly as Sin: The Truth About How We Look and Finding Freedom From Self-Hatred
'I'm Ugly. You're Ugly. So What?'\ In Ugly as Sin Toni Raiten-D'Antonio, MSW, breaks the ultimate social taboo by insisting that she is ugly in the eyes of the world. More shocking still, she calls on the rest of us to own our ugliness too. But don't be insulted. There's a liberating purpose to her message, one that could finally set you free from the obsessing, self-doubt, and self-criticism that all of us participate in when we think about how we look.\ In this unprecedented examination of...
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I'm Ugly. You're Ugly. So What?"The truth is that we all have felt ugly. The sin is that we let this word shame us, control us, and define us." -- Toni Raiten-D'Antonio, LCSWHave you heard about the Ugly Problem? Vanity and disgust over our looks, our weight, our inevitable aging have become commonplace--even expected--but their pervasiveness and control over our well-being, our decision-making, and our identity have gotten out of control! Ugly as Sin is a brave and searingly honest exploration of the taboo subject of ugliness and how it affects every one of us in a direct and profound way.The fear of being ugly has poisoned our minds, impeded our spirits, and sidetracked us from what really matters. This universal fear, which psychotherapist Toni Raiten-D'Antonio calls 'ugliphobia' affects how we develop as individuals, how we relate to each other, and, most of all, how we feel about ourselves. Our politics, religion, and cultural development even rely heavily on appearance-based bigotry that acts as the last acceptable form of prejudice. Ugly as Sin is a provocative and timely call to action to reverse the devastating repercussions of the Ugly Problem.Overcoming ugliphobia begins with having the courage to embrace our own ugliness and, in the process, accept our humanity. That sounds easier said than done, which is why it is with profound empathy and wisdom that Raiten-D'Antonio ultimately offers readers inspiration, hope, and peace, as well tools for finding self-acceptance, no matter the size of their thighs or shape of their nose. It is a revolutionary book that will change the way we look at ourselves, and at each other. Publishers Weekly In an examination that is equal parts cultural study and memoir, Psychotherapist and bestselling author Raiten-D'Antonio (The Velveteen Principles for Women) explores the U word and its implications in a society obsessed with beauty and youth. Raiten-D'Antonio has encountered ugliness, or "ugliphobia" as she calls it, in her professional work and her classroom. "Bigotry based on appearance seems to be the last socially acceptable bastion of prejudice." The author provides an important historical context of the concept of beauty and makes easy reference to pop culture; she discusses its power by examining her own personal relationship to beauty, including painful experiences with her appearance and, ultimately, her choice to have plastic surgery. An appendix features posts from women who responded to her female-empowerment Facebook group, leaving no doubt as to the importance and reach of this issue. With body-image ranked near the top of concerns among women (and men) today, Raiten-D'Antonio's contention that "everyone is ugly" is not only true but empowering, making her message of acceptance, healing, and hope all the more necessary. Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.
Introduction 1Part 1 Origins1 Survival of the Liked 172 Beyond the Body We're Given 293 Ugliness and the Purpose of Disgust 39Part 2 Ugliness and Culture4 Medusa 495 Ugly As Sin 576 The Modern Medusa 657 You Have to Be Carefully Taught 738 Difference as Deviance 83Part 3 The Ugly Effects9 Codependence and Ugliphobia 9510 Bigotry becomes an Inside Job 10711 The Weight Problem 12112 Acts of Desperation 12913 Hatred in Action 143Part 4 Overcoming Ugliphobia14 Facing the Truth 15715 Your Ugly Biography 16716 Self-Care 18117 Embracing Medusa 189Epilogue: Pass It On 197Appendix: Speak Out 207Sources 229Acknowledgments 237Index 239
\ Publishers WeeklyIn an examination that is equal parts cultural study and memoir, Psychotherapist and bestselling author Raiten-D'Antonio (The Velveteen Principles for Women) explores the U word and its implications in a society obsessed with beauty and youth. Raiten-D'Antonio has encountered ugliness, or "ugliphobia" as she calls it, in her professional work and her classroom. "Bigotry based on appearance seems to be the last socially acceptable bastion of prejudice." The author provides an important historical context of the concept of beauty and makes easy reference to pop culture; she discusses its power by examining her own personal relationship to beauty, including painful experiences with her appearance and, ultimately, her choice to have plastic surgery. An appendix features posts from women who responded to her female-empowerment Facebook group, leaving no doubt as to the importance and reach of this issue. With body-image ranked near the top of concerns among women (and men) today, Raiten-D'Antonio's contention that "everyone is ugly" is not only true but empowering, making her message of acceptance, healing, and hope all the more necessary. \ Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.\ \ \ \ \ Midwest Book Review'The Bookwatch' edition: Self-Help Shelf\ Ugly As Sin Toni Raiten-D'Antonio Health Communications Inc.\ 3201 SW 15th St., Deerfield Beach, Fl 33442-8190\ 0757314651, $21.95, www.hcibooks.com\ UGLY AS SIN: THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW WE LOOK AND FINDING FREEDOM FROM SELF-HATRED is the first book to examine ugliness, how it's defined, and how it controls our lives. It's based on the author's research into bigotry based on appearance and some results come from the author's web-based survey on self-assessment and ugliness, which sparked hundreds of responses around the world. An intriguing survey results!\ \ \
