Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct
In Choosing Civility, P. M. Forni offers twenty-five rules for connecting effectively with others -- at home, at work, in our daily encounters. In clear, witty, and thoughtful sections, Forni covers topics that include: Think Twice Before Asking Favors; Refrain from Idle Complaints; Don't Shift Responsibility and Blame; Accept and Give Praise; Give Constructive Criticism; Respect Others' Opinions; Care for Your Guests Finally, Forni provides examples of how to put each rule into practice and...
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A handbook on civility, and a call to action, The Basics is both a serious inquiry into what civility is and an effective manual on how to make practical use of civil behaviors.
ForewordxiPart 1Life and Relationships3What Is Civility?7Respect in Action13Happiness and the Mind15How Do We Learn to Love?18Civility and Self-Expression21Nice Guys Finish Last. Or Do They?25The Science of Love and Social Support28About the Rules31Part 2The Rules1.Pay Attention352.Acknowledge Others413.Think the Best444.Listen485.Be Inclusive546.Speak Kindly607.Don't Speak Ill648.Accept and Give Praise699.Respect Even a Subtle "No"7410.Respect Others' Opinions7711.Mind Your Body8112.Be Agreeable8713.Keep It Down (and Rediscover Silence)9314.Respect Other People's Time9715.Respect Other People's Space10016.Apologize Earnestly10617.Assert Yourself11018.Avoid Personal Questions11619.Care for Your Guests12220.Be a Considerate Guest12621.Think Twice Before Asking for Favors13122.Refrain from Idle Complaints13623.Accept and Give Constructive Criticism14124.Respect the Environment and Be Gentle to Animals14625.Don't Shift Responsibility and Blame152Part 3Culture Shock161Striking Through the Form to the Substance163I Did It My Way165Authority on the Wane167The Age of the Self169Living Among Strangers171The Drive to Achieve173Stress175How We Play the Game176Two Sides of the Coin179What to Do182Notes187Suggestions for Further Reading195
\ From Barnes & NobleA professor of Italian literature and the cofounder of the Johns Hopkins Civility Project, P. M. Forni came to the crucial realization one day that he would rather his students be kind human beings than know Dante. The word civility comes from the Latin civitas, the root also for civilization. How we live together in groups and treat each other on a daily basis is ultimately the foundation of our entire civilization. These 25 rules embody truths that we could all stand to be reminded of: Pay Attention; Acknowledge Others; Think the Best...\ \
