Sex Makes People Stupid
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What you want is a LOVE THAT LASTS FOREVERRRR. What you keep getting is a BOOTY CALL, a HOOKUP or a SEX BUDDY. You have to change what you're doing if you want to get different results.EXCERPT FROM CHAPTER 12: BOYFRIEND BOOTCAMP Great relationships NEVER start like this: You catch his eye by wearing something revealing or tight-fitting, so he knows what you've got is worth going after. You find out what he's into. You initiate a date designed around something he likes. On that date, you flirt with him and get him revved up sexually. If you like where it's going, you either have oral sex or "safe" sex (taking the least amount of risk possible, but risk nonetheless.) You think this will make you unforgettable. You say things implying that you're not really looking for anything serious --- just in case he's afraid of commitment. And so he won't think you're desperate. You enthusiastically tell him you had a good time. Then you hope the sex was so great or your conversation was so witty that he'll be convinced he just can't live without you. In the fantasy, he calls you back --- within a day at the most. He organizes an elaborate romantic setting and spends the whole time hanging on your every word and looking longingly into your eyes. Within a month, he's talking about moving in together and getting married. [Author's Note: For males reading this: I swear this IS how women think!] But in the Real World, ladies, he's processed that same set of information very differently. For him, * If you're wearing an outfit that shows off what you've got, he assumes you're advertising SEX. * If you make the first move, you'reshowing him he can have sex without effort. * If you plan a date around his interests, he concludes you have no interests of your own that he has to accommodate. * If you say you aren't looking for anything serious, he thinks you aren't looking for anything serious. * If you have sex with him right away, he thinks your attitude toward sex is the same as a guy's. Some men are convinced there ARE women who just want sex. No relationship, just sex. When the sex comes early and easily, he assumes you must be one of those girls.This book is especially for Singles-even if you're "with someone." It's for anyone whose ever chosen a partner based on "sexual chemistry," and then wondered why things didn't work outside the bedroom! If you ever got into a relationship (or stayed in a bad one) just to have sex, this book is for YOU. It will challenge everything you thought about sex, love and relationships.Included in the book is some practical help for parents of teens, but even young people will learn there's a lot more to relationships than what's in the movies. Take a humorous look at the ineffective methods unmarrieds use to find their Perfect Fit, and the surprising steps that actually WORK.
