Something to Tell You: The Road Families Travel When a Child Is Gay
Even now, at the end of the twentieth century, many still have difficulty standing up and saying, "I am the parent of a gay child." Something to Tell You recounts the stories of families whose lives have been touched by the discovery that a child is lesbian or gay -- how it affects and influences people's perceptions of their children and even changes the self-image of parents themselves.\ Focusing on fifty average families -- not people seen in clinics or therapy -- the authors found a...
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An internationally known anthropologist and an eminent social worker/psychotherapist show how families can thrive and actually grow through the creation of more honest relationships when a son or daughter comes out. Paul Beeman An extremely helpful book for parents and family members as they discover a child to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, or questioning. We wish we might have read it eleven years ago when our kids came out.
ForewordPrefaceAcknowledgmentsIntroduction: When Your Child Says, "I Have Something to Tell You..."1Ch. 1The Heterosexual Family Myth: How It Can Be Harmful13Ch. 2What Affects a Family's Resilience?29Ch. 3When a Family Loses Its Way: Disintegration41Ch. 4Somewhere in the Middle: Ambivalence63Ch. 5The Family Renewed: Integration81Ch. 6You Have Something to Hear: New Cultural Ideals107App. 1: Tables121App. 2: Context and Methods of the Study127App. 3: Resources137Notes145Index151
\ Caitlin RyanAn invaluable resource for parents, family members, and mental health providers. Based on the results of a groundbreaking study, it offers a roadmap of personal experience and hope for families, together with clinical insight and guidance for social workers, psychologists, and other mental health providers who are helping families cope with a child´s coming out. A must read for every parent of a lesbian, gay, or bisexual child and anyone who works with them.\ \ \ \ \ Paul BeemanAn extremely helpful book for parents and family members as they discover a child to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, or questioning. We wish we might have read it eleven years ago when our kids came out.\ \ \ Susan StewartThe parent of a gay, lesbian, or bisexual child will find this a valuable resource in helping families cope with a child's coming out. Family accounts and experiences, joined with scholarly study and guidance, provide a model for families to work through. This work would be useful in any public library.\ \ \ \ \ Journal of Feminist Family TherapyOn the one hand, the book is a carefully researched and scholarly work that will appeal to researchers, policymakers, mental health professionals, and service providers. On the other, it is a highly readable, enjoyable, and informative work for families of gay sons or lesbian daughters.\ \ \ \ \ BooknewsBasing their work on a survey of 50 families, Koff (family health, U. of Chicago) and Herdt (human sexuality, San Francisco State U.) explore parental reactions to children's coming out of the closet. They find that some patterns of reaction led to stronger relations that allowed families to overcome strong societal pressures while others led to total family dissolution. Annotation c. Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)\ \
